When is a couple officially dating
") but usually, that's not the issue—the issue is that he is a dude, and therefore has no idea what he is doing, now or ever. Sometimes this just kind of happens, and it doesn't freak either of you out, in which case, hooray!
At the risk of generalizing, a guy has given your relationship status much less thought than you have (again, not because he doesn't care, just because of Dude Brains). I'm not sure how useful this one is, because some people will happily have a physical relationship and then break it off after a few weeks without feeling like it really meant anything. You've transitioned to Official Couple in the easiest possible way.
Hey Jono, you wise helpful human, maybe you could spare some time to help me out.
I'm not going to ask you about my specific and many dramatic boy problems, I'd just like to clarify something.
The thing is, I'm not sure if you'd rather have vindication that you have actually had a love life or some advice for future college/adult dating.
I certainly don't want to be like "NO SPARKLER YOU HAVE HAD ZERO BOYFRIENDS AND ALSO YOUR HAIR LOOKS TERRIBLE." I think your first relationship was probably too short to count, your second could be fairly called a middle-school relationship, and your third is the most relationship-y, despite its lack of official terms, because doing couple stuff matters more than calling yourselves a couple.
Remember when Drake told Rihanna, "When you're ready, just say you're ready/ When all the baggage just ain't as heavy/ And the party's over, just don't forget me/ We'll change the pace and we'll just go slow"?
Well, whether you do or don't, it seems like she definitely did, and perhaps now is the time that baggage ain't as heavy.
You've gotten past a few dates with a new special someone and now you're in that weird in between point of "What the hell are we? Religion, interests, hobbies, crazy Jewish moms, whatever.4.
You've had at least one talk about the future. You need to have enough experience to know that the current relationship you're in feels different. Keep that momentum going into the relationship and you'll become a healthy couple, not that mushy OMG gross-and-inseparable-one.5. There's a reason you're spilling the juicy deets to your BFFs, you know. You know at least something about each others' upbringing. That means your budding relationship isn't textbook.
Future can refer to anything from how many kids you want to have or how you're gonna get to that concert you bought tickets for in three months. We're not saying you need to have memorized your SO's family tree by now, but knowing how many siblings he has, what his parents are like and where he grew up are pretty much basic convos that need to happen by date, like, three, tops.7.
I don't like judging by the number of dates, because the more important factors are how well you know the person (in a tight-knit setting like high school, you usually know a person pretty well before dating him at all) and whether you both like where this is going.
It's as much about what you intend to keep doing as it is about what you've already done.