Dating outside of religion
Apparently bi-religious relationships are on the rise—at least in my circle.Doing a totally (un)scientific survey among my six best girlfriends (four Christian, one Muslim, and one that believes, well, nothing) I asked them: Would a guy’s religion ever prevent you from dating him? One of them added that the guy would have to convert, though, if they were going to get married.In the context of a romantic relationship, proselytizing can feel like saying “You’re not good enough the way you are”. So if you want to successfully date someone of a different religion, put away any desires to convert or criticize. Is there anything you’re not willing to do or talk about?Communication is key in any relationship, but within the context of an interfaith partnership, it’s even more vital.
But if you can accept the differences between the two of you, you can explore your partner’s worldview without contempt or judgment, making our relationship what it should be—a safe place for the both of you to be open regarding your faith.If you’ve fallen for someone of a different religion, that’s about to change. You’re not going to agree with every point of your partner’s faith.If you can’t accept this, you may as well end the relationship now—it’s headed for the rocks. Imagine your partner will never, ever change their faith. Every assumption we hold about how the world works is filtered through our faith, giving us a coherent worldview that informs our every decision.These are deeply held values that guide our very lives, just as the stars did for the ancient sailors.