Dating aloof woman
If my head was whirling afterwards, it was only from the thrill and excitement of romance—rarely from pulling my hair out in bewildered frustration (which was the norm with my unconfident man).
From experience, I learned that true confidence isn’t exactly flashy—and won’t necessarily be obvious unless you know what you’re looking for.
But as we grew closer, I realized his confidence was actually very broken—the snarky humor was really just a cover for his wounds, a way to protect his ego.
And the longer we knew each other, the more he also used —that spent way too much of her time upholding his fragile pride.
Every first date ends with a woman asking herself just one question: Is there any chance that you might be boyfriend material?
In other words…to pass her tests and make her think of you as genuine boyfriend material.The relationship became all about him finding himself—not a mutual relationship where both parties grew and loved the world together.Not only was his lack of confidence a cancer that ultimately destroyed our relationship, but it also left us both in a puddle of confusion afterward.As they sit across the table from a woman, most guys are busy planning, worrying about what to say and do next or worse — just not being interested. Until a man is confident and comfortable enough to be totally “present,” he’ll never connect with a woman in the moment, let alone for the future. It will be painfully obvious that he’s not hearing or caring about what she has to say. I know what you’re thinking…and you’re totally wrong.About 99% of guys think that being “thoughtful” is about telling a woman how pretty she is, or buying her flowers, gifts or lavishing attention on her at obvious moments.